5 Nov 2019
When I meet a leader for the first time to discuss coaching, I often hear these words “I’m a very self-aware person.” To my ears, that’s an indication that they are actually quite the opposite. To be self-aware means knowing how you come across to others. When we hear someone say they are very self-aware, we hear it as a lack of humility. This means that if you have said those words, you don’t understand how you come across to others, and by definition can’t be very self-aware. So how do you know if you're self-aware? Take our free assessment and find out.
30 May 2019
Regulating your attention seems easy from an intellectual standpoint. It’s just being disciplined and focused. But, as we find out once we try to do it, it’s not so easy - especially today with so many distractions occurring all the time. Why is that? We have to develop a capacity for greater mental effort which contributes to regulated attention.
10 May 2019
Focusing on what’s most important for achieving key objectives is challenging in the conditions of constant change. Fires, distracting issues, and ad-hoc challenges abound. It gets even more complicated in the context of meetings, where there are multiple people in the room - as each has the potential to shape the attention of the group with everything they say. If the team in question reports to you, it can be tempting to step in and be directive when attention and focus dissipates during a team meeting - but then this can foster dependence on you to get things done. So how can you develop focus in your team while keeping members empowered?
3 May 2019
As a leader, when you work on shaping your attention, you develop a capacity to control your behavior, emotions, and thoughts in the pursuit of long-term goals. Rather than reacting by impulse, you develop the capacity to respond in a mindful way. In other words, you build your skill in thinking before acting. This is sometimes referred to as “regulating” attention, which involves directing your attention consciously for a specific developmental purpose, and sustaining it there despite distraction.
16 Apr 2019
Leadership has many facets to it. It looks different in each organization, in each role, and even in each situation - which is part of the challenge, and also what makes it fascinating to study. As I reflect back on the set of skills I most commonly coach my executive clients and their teams on, there is one common trend. This is a secret habit, the “one skill to rule them all” if you will. And it will make you grow and develop as a leader more than any other.